Resilient: How To Grow An Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength, and Happiness By Rick Hanson
Resilient: How To Grow An Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength, and Happiness
Book Summary in Four Sentences
True residence is much more than enduring terrible conditions. Resilience is something that you need every single day in order to raise a family, work at a job, cope with stress and deal with health problems. The author shows the reader how to develop twelve vital inner strengths hardwired into your own nervous system. This is a practical guide is full of concrete suggestions, experiential practices, personal examples, and insights into the brain.
Below are my notes from reading the book and key take aways that I've started to implement into my own life.
- Mindfulness helps you open up to the deeper layers of yourself
- You can grow inner strengths in four steps, summarized as HEAL: have a positive experience, enrich it, absorb it, and link it to negative material
- Humans evolved to be dependent upon each other. When others are dependably helpful and caring, especially when we are young, we develop a sense of security and internal stability. But if others are distant or rejecting, we feel insecure and become less resilient
- Anger comes in two stages: the priming and the trigger. Try to act early to reduce the priming and respond to the trigger in proportion to it
- Resilience is more than bouncing back from adversity. People who are resident keep pursuing their goals in the face of challenges
- People often think they need to be hard on themselves to stay motivated, but the opposite is generally true
- Degrees of intimacy are present in all relationships, not just romantic ones
- Empathy is necessary for intimacy